Loss & Grief


The death of a loved one, a natural disaster, the end of a relationship or marriage, redundancy, these are but a few examples where a person may experience a grief response. Grief is the process that we go through to help us deal with a loss.

The impact of grief can cause tremendous chaos to all aspects of our lives. We all respond differently to grief but the most important thing to remember is that most reactions are normal. Sometimes we find these responses overwhelming, but knowing they are normal helps us to come to terms with the changes. It is also important to note that there is no fixed timetable for these reactions. Learning about grief and the possible reactions to it is helpful to the grieving process.

Most people are able to cope and work through their grieving process on their own and will eventually adapt to their normal lives after the death of a loved one. On the other hand, some people may find resolving their feelings and overcoming their loss insurmountable and find themselves unable to cope.

This can also be a time when you feel very alone. Support is one of the crucial elements that can help you move through the grieving process to help you cope with the pain of loss. An experienced counsellor can be there for you when family and friends need to go back to their busy lives.

Each and every one of us changes in some way after the death of someone we love. Losing someone you love can be like losing one half of yourself. The pain and emptiness felt during the grieving process can go on for months or years.  However, no two people will ever respond to the same situation in the same way. Working through grief is an individual, day by day, week by week process.

There are times when a bereaved person simply needs to feel that another human being understands their pain. A counsellor can provide assistance with problem solving and decision making which can be challenging to someone in grief. But more importantly, a counsellor can give the person an opportunity to express their feelings regarding their loss.  Anger, guilt, anxiety, helplessness and sadness are common feelings that one may experience after suffering a loss. A counsellor can provide a supportive relationship for that person. Reassurance will come from knowing that what they are experiencing is normal and a common response to grief.

 

Read more about Grief and Loss:

Common Grief Reactions

Helpful tips if you’ve suffered a loss

Phases of Grief

Dealing with loss through suicide

 

Telephone and Skype sessions

Understanding that sometimes a grieving person may feel like withdrawing and would prefer to stay home, this service can be accessed via the phone or via Skype.

Returning to life is much easier when a person is allowed to work through the grief process with support and acceptance. For more information contact Denise.